tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014338833105629957.post7285817186258124153..comments2024-01-03T04:14:58.942-07:00Comments on My Own Brand of Crazy: PaReNTiNG PaRTY - WHISTLE WHILE YOU WORK!The Crazy Coxeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04143173109964647936noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014338833105629957.post-3316875352726074962009-06-29T12:13:05.016-06:002009-06-29T12:13:05.016-06:00My kids helped around the house, but we never had ...My kids helped around the house, but we never had a chore chart of any sort. Their "job" was to do their best in school. Their "job" was to do their homework when they got home. My "job" was to keep the house clean, take care of laundry, and feed them...and sometimes do yard work until kids got old enough to do it. My husband had a full-time job and didn't need another one when he got home.<br /> <br />That said, at some point hubby and kids took over cleaning up after dinner. I loved this! It gave me a few minutes to myself and it gave them a chance to hang out together and talk. <br /> <br />Anyone not doing homework could expect to be called on to help prepare dinner or set the table. Kids were expected to keep their rooms fairly decent. This included making the bed before school. I hate unmade beds! They were expected to put dirty laundry in the correct place. Youngest daughter liked to scrub the kitchen floor so I was happy to let her. Everyone took turns walking the dog, although he didn't like to go with oldest daughter because she walked too far. LOL<br /> <br />There were times when everyone was called on to help with a family project - cleaning out the garage or basement, weeding flower beds, etc. The reward for those things was always a family thing - dinner out and maybe a movie or miniature golf. Otherwise, I wasn't really into stickers and rewards. The reward was living in a comfortable home with a family that stuck together.<br /> <br />funny story - Youngest two were friends with a brother and sister and went to their home quite a bit. Friends had a job jar. Every job had a payment attached. My kids loved to go there and work for money, and the friends loved having them come because they had fewer chores to do. The mother didn't care who she paid as long as the work was done. <br /> <br />When I was growing up, my father worked half a day on Saturday so that was the time my mother, brother and I cleaned the house. My mom took care of the kitchen, bathroom, and her bedroom. My brother and I cleaned our rooms and the living room and dining room. What was neat was my mother never cared if we rearranged the furniture as long as we didn't move my Dad's chair. We had great fun "decorating." She also let us choose what dishes to use to set the table. My brother loved to use her best china and candles on the table. Along with responsibility, we need to allow our children the right to make some decisions along the way.<br /><br />The kids did get a small allowance, but it wasn't tied to doing certain chores.Shirleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04677006454027632987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014338833105629957.post-35893773352499770742009-06-29T11:43:56.735-06:002009-06-29T11:43:56.735-06:00I did the exact same as you - when my kids were ve...I did the exact same as you - when my kids were very little they knew how to clean. I was home during the day, and they helped and learned. As they have gotten older, they do less. But can do whatever chore it is well.. well, good enough. lol<br /><br />I have paid them to do work - I get paid if I work, my husband gets paid when he works. I know I don't get paid for the housework. But it also is teaching them the value of money, instead of just handing it over at every whim. And if the work isn't done, then no money. Simple.<br /><br />Right now, Tyler pretty much doesn't do anythig, but his room.. when it is a disaster! I am a firm believer in shutting doors. lol He has school and a part time job and a girlfriend, enough said. Spencer is now my worker around here - He needs summer money, so I have a few specific items I want done each week for a certain amount of money. We do this each summer with the young teen who doesn't or can't find a job for that extra summer fun money. <br /><br />Works for us.Misstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03677390785575744116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014338833105629957.post-84973453809477226462009-06-29T10:25:54.834-06:002009-06-29T10:25:54.834-06:00I was flipping around the channels on the tv the o...I was flipping around the channels on the tv the other day and came across a conference talk or on the BYU channel (could have been women's conference) and the person speaking talked about chores...she said something to the effect of--- kids should be cleaning the front room to learn to appreciate a clean room, not just to earn the reward at the end of the job. She was talking about the parents who pay kids for doing their chores or bribe kids to get things done. <br /> I think about my kids, and if I say "clean the front room" they will come back "it IS clean" but to my standards, it really isn't. so that's frustrating. They don't CARE if the house is messy. They don't care if people are on their way over and I want the clutter picked up....so I have some work to do in that area of parenting. <br /><br />But my kids all have "jobs" to do around the house. They don't get paid an allowence.Lifeisapitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10288586851750680035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014338833105629957.post-5450286232684874192009-06-29T09:01:42.174-06:002009-06-29T09:01:42.174-06:00Applause. Yes! Exactly how we work it here. Whe...Applause. Yes! Exactly how we work it here. When they were young, the chores were more simple. As they got older, a bit more responsibility. They have chores, but are not my slaves like a few people I know have their kids be. They know if they want to go play then their chores have to be done. After a few times, they have figured it out pretty quick and if I'm slow on getting the list ready, they have been known to ask so they can get going with their day.valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10591185033291457798noreply@blogger.com